Love is never an age thing; you need to start taking a second look at your love life if you hold such a notion. Truth be told, being old or young are nothing but relative terms. It is the inner person that counts. So if you’re not finding what you’re looking for with the men you currently date, dating older men might be worth your while.
Society has not yet fully accepted significantly older men dating younger women. People will always freak out when the see such a couple. The age-gap in the relationship receives a substantial backlash from many. The raised eyebrow, stares, and constant whispers telling of the disapproval of such a relationship.
Why does society hold such a point of view? Isn’t an older man also rightfully allowed to love and be loved, irrespective of age? Where was it written that the young should only date the young, and older guys are left to their own devices? What is the appropriate age-gap between two partners?
Delving into these questions paints a whole new picture. The risque perceptions are overshadowed by the true nature of love. Love is not race, tribe, culture, religion or age biased.
Love Has No Limits
Currently, those who know what love is and can do, appreciate love from every quarter it comes from. And so the societal stand on dating older men is slowly changing. More women are adopting a more liberal mindset and re-viewing their relationship options.
What are some of the things that have contributed to such a stand in the modern woman?
For one, modern women are more liberal and are less blinkered in the type of men they want in their lives. Older men are slowly gaining a higher score because of several factors, which include:
1. They Are Established
Older men have “seen most of what life is about”. They know the cost of loving and heartache. Studies show that a relationship with a person who has a full understanding and appreciation of self will last longer.
These life experiences are missing in younger men because they are still in their adventurous stage of life. Older men are established in various aspects of their lives. So, as the modern woman would put it, “they will not come with all the drama”.
2. They Offer Security
Every woman wants to have a man who makes her feel secure in every aspect of life and their relationship. Older men come across as financially secure; they are also less eager to manipulate something a woman is looking for when seeking a secure or stable relationship.
3. They Come With Less Baggage
Women love a man who stands on his own, and is never tied down to other people. Men tend to have a manly affection for their male friend; so, it’s not that uncommon to find a man has one or more roommates.
Friends are good to have around, but not all the time. Such behavior puts off many women because they love spending time alone with their man. Older men often come without all this baggage, which is why they have gradually surpassed younger men in the dating pool.
4. They Show True Appreciation
Older men are just like old wine, tastefully refined. They have been around for some time and have learned a thing or two about life and love.
An older man has probably had his fair share of relationships and learned from each to be a better lover and friend. As such, an older man has a higher and better appreciation for his woman than a younger man would. If you look at the ways that men interact with women such as a bit of chivalry or general manners, you will note that older men are better at it than young men.
5. Offer A Better Sex Experience
For a woman, there is more to sex that just “getting some” and older men know this first hand. The older man has had more time to learn and perfect his technique. He will not just be excited that he is getting laid, let alone doing it with someone younger. Sex is a gradual process that for him will get him to cloud nine, and women love that gradual ride that will take them off their feet and flying in the clouds of sexual ecstasy and satisfaction.
Well, let’s just say this will need some consideration where the age–gap is concerned. No woman wants to say she killed her man by making love to him and that his old heart and age could not cope with the heat of passion.
6. They Are Assertive
Women like a man who is sure who he is and what he wants. Such a man is assertive, knows what he likes, and will also command respect from other people as well as his woman. This one particular element turns many women on and is a reason why the modern woman is dating older men instead of their younger metrosexual counterparts.
While older men possess these qualities, dating these men might prove a challenge if the woman does not know how to play her cards right. Granted, men will quickly fall for a pair of “boobs and ass” in fine clothing and heels, but all that might just end when dealing with the older man.
Women need to shift their game from that of physical tactics to that of wits, which is one quality that will get the attention of any older man. Older men have had their fair share of fun; that’s not to say that they still don’t get down and dirty but they will be more laid back. A bit of patience on the woman’s side will go a long way to keeping her man interested. She still should keep things spontaneous, just enough to get his blood racing and heart pumping.
Dating older men can be fun irrespective of age; all it takes is understanding of each other. Yes, the ideals of a younger woman might be different from those of an older man, but those are just relative terms; what matters is the connection between two people.