By Amanda Grant
I think it’s fair to say that every woman has felt undesirable or been made to feel so at some point in her life. No matter what age you are when it happens, whether you’re 26 or 62, it’s never a good feeling. I’ve been there too, and I know how it feels when your long-time partner or the guy you’re currently dating makes you feel that way. It’s a blow to your whole being; it saps your confidence and sense of self-worth.
So what’s a gal to do when this situation arises? Talk to your best friend? She’ll tell you your guy is an ass and doesn’t know how lucky he is to be with you.
For a more objective opinion, you can look outside your friends and family. Feminists would suggest that you develop two separate identities – your personal one and one for your relationships. And going the self-help route? Gurus will tell you that you need to identify your own personal strengths and work from those in the future.
There’s no denying it’s all good advice but none of it really gets to the core of sexual desire and what unlocks it. What if there were a way to cut to the chase? To know exactly what the secrets of attraction are…how to understand men better so that you can repair a rocky (or even broken) relationship? And find that fulfilling, sultry and passionate relationship you’ve always desired?
So when I came across Felicity Keith’s video that looks at this exact issue, I was more than intrigued.
The Language of Desire – What Is It Exactly
We all want to have a spark, a fire, an intensity in our relationships and, for whatever reason, that either doesn’t happen or the spark or fire goes out. This relationship program addresses that issue and helps you to (re)ignite the fires of passion with your partner.
On the face of it, the Language of Desire looks like a course that just teaches you how to talk dirty to a guy but when you unlock the members’ area, the course provides so much more than that. What the program reveals is how you go about creating a sensual relationship – from making your man feel like he’s the center of your universe to unlocking the secrets of his fantasies; from understanding the male sex drive to to moving a man you’re attracted to but who only sees you as a friend into a position where he sees you as a potential partner.
The program also explains male psychology – why men act the way they do in certain situations. Armed with that knowledge, you can direct (in a nice way) how a man will react to you.
I felt a bit silly starting out because I thought I should have known more about men by now and more that I care to admit was new to me. As you get further into the program, you’ll learn just what makes men tick. You’ll also discover what makes women tick too and, naturally, the two sexes don’t see things the same way. Knowing how men think means you’ll also discover how to become a more desirable woman. And that, after all, is what we all want, whether that’s for a new man or the man you’ve been married to for 10 years.
Why Was This Relationship Program Created?
The first thing to say is that Felicity Keith who put this course together is not some sex worker, dominatrix, super model or, indeed, scientist. She’s a suburban mom, a regular woman like you and me. She found out that being sexy didn’t mean you have to be a slut!
Finding herself in the embarrassing position of not being able to keep her man 100% satisfied she embarked on a mission to identify why things weren’t as good as she wanted and to get her man to be sexually interested in her again.
This course is the culmination of her research. What’s here is what she found was successful in her own relationship and validated by friends who tried these techniques in their own relationships.
She documented her research as she went along and it was her friends’ incessant questions about what she’d discovered that prompted her to publish the Language of Desire course for other women.
The reason the course is so successful is because she’s an “every woman” and not someone from the sex industry.
What’s In The Course?
The membership area is extensive, featuring 10 distinct modules. In all, there are 38 lessons (3-5 per module). Each module also has a set of worksheets for you to follow.
The Language of Desire Modules. Click here for a larger view
The course is comprised of lessons that you read. Course pages are filled with information about male sexual psychology and how to unlock it. Your own sexual psychology will be examined and explained too.
This is a web-based course, so you can access it anywhere you can use a web browser. While there’s no video content, lessons can also be downloaded in PDF format, so you can still read them offline. Lessons are also provided in audio MP3 format which you can also download and listen to offline (and discreetly). I listen to the lessons during my daily commute.
It’s best to follow the modules in order, but you can access any particular lesson at any stage. This is something you might want to do if you feel that lesson is especially relevant to your own situation or relationship.
You’ll understand why men watch pornography, learn about the primitive brain and how it relates to sex and what you have to do to become the object of desire for your man.
All lessons are open for comment and some have almost 200 comments left by other members. It’s gives great insight into what difficulties other women have faced in their own relationships as well as highlighting some the common issues that seem to have affected us all at one time or another.
The course isn’t all about sex, it also looks at what makes a healthy relationship and the psyche and psychology of men, examining what makes a man feel wanted and desired.
Three Bonuses come with the course:
- Silent Seduction – shows you how to modify your body language so you become more seductive to your man, both emotionally and sexually.
- Done For You Texts – here you’re given over 200 text messages you can send to your man. They range from sweet to saucy so you can get you man hot before he even sets foot inside the door.
- Unstoppable Confidence – an interview (in PDF format) by relationship expert Michael Fiore with Micheal Griswald, another relationship expect, where they debate what role confidence plays in attracting a partner and how the lack of it can undermine a relationship.
The first two bonuses are pure gold. I loved the text messages – naughty but nice. And they inspired me to create my own unique messages.
The “Become a Sexual Superwoman!” Module
Who Is This Course Aimed At?
The beauty of this course is that any woman can use it any any stage of a relationship. Maybe you’re dating a new guy and you want to amp things up a bit or get him past his shyness; maybe you’re searching for the right guy and think you’ve found him, but things need a bit of tweaking; maybe you just want to put the fire back into your marriage after things have become a bit too routine and lacklustre. Whether you’re in your 20s or 50s, there’s something here for you whatever stage your relationship is at.
If you’ve got a flaming hot sex life, this course will help you keep it that way. If you’re worried your relationship is fizzling out, you’ll learn how to put the spark and magic back into it. If your guy is shy, inhibited or sexually repressed, you’ll discover how to overcome those barriers and bring the animal out in him (you’ll be doing him a favor!). And if there’s no man in your life at the moment, the course will equip you with the information and tools you need to attract the right guy when the time comes.
So Why Does The Language of Desire Work?
I can only give my own experience. I was brought up as a “good girl” so I was taught that sex was essentially for making babies. In my late teens, I found out that boys didn’t see things that way. For them, sex was recreational. That didn’t seem fair so I started experimenting. But I couldn’t get away from the feeling that I was being naughty – a “bad girl” – and this would disappoint my parents. In the back of my mind, there was that feeling that what I was doing was somehow slutty.
What I was doing was normal though. Get a boyfriend and if things seemed to be going well, sleep together and maybe move in. But I think that voice in the back of my head that said “no sex before marriage” repressed me for years. Even when I met my then-to-be husband, when everything seemed right, that voice still whispered.
Even after we were married I found I was sexually repressed to some extent. Maybe the repression had become a habit through the years. Of course, I didn’t recognize anything was actually wrong. It just seemed “normal”. I’d only go so far sexually before I’d start feeling slutty or uncomfortable, even with my husband. It became a sexual insecurity I now realize thanks to Language of Desire.
Following the course, I was able to see my own inadequacies and that liberated me to be able to make myself more desirable without feeling slutty any more. I have more sexual confidence now and that, as it turns out, is a huge turn-on for my man.
If the idea of sharing your desires and fantasies, talking dirty to your man and exploring your own sexuality makes you feel uncomfortable, it shouldn’t. This course shows you that you can incorporate all that into your sex life without shame or fear. Or feeling slutty.
I’m full of desires and fantasies as I know my man is. Using this course, I’ve been able to unlock his deepest sexual urges. When I look into his eyes, he’s not far away, thinking about something or someone else, but he’s here with me, engaged with me both emotionally and sexually. And that’s very fulfilling for both of us. There’s passion, fire and energy in our relationship and, while he might think he’s in control, it’s me who actually is! 😉
Some of my Favorite Techniques
- Understanding His Sex Drive – this eye-opener explains just what sex is all about for a man and what he gets out of it.
- The Tease Intensifier – playfully puts you just out of your man’s reach. It builds up a little tension and sexual frustration so that when you do let him “catch” you, the sizzle factor is high.
- The Verbal Viagra Method – we all know what Viagra’s for. This method achieves the desired effect with text messages!
- The Lust Method – you going to engage in a back-and-forth conversation all about sex and desires via text. May not sound like much but this one’s really effective and really amps things up 🙂
- Using Erotic Telepathy – how to keep your man interested is all about understanding your man’s unique desires and fantasies and then acting on that information and eagerly meeting those fantasies and is one of the most powerful things you can do to make him feel accepted, loved, desired, and connected to you.
- Pavlov’s Erection – this one can be torture for a man but great fun for you. Get him standing to attention any time you want whether that’s in the bedroom or somewhere less appropriate!
If you’re having any kind of difficulty in a sexual relationship, you’re not satisfying your man 100% and he’s not totally focused on you sexually, you’re having trouble connecting with your partner or you want to know how to make a man desire you, then this course is for you.
- Content is easy to access, navigate and follow
- Course material is also provided in downloadable PDF and MP3 formats for offline use
- Advice is easily applicable
- Advice covers a wide range of situations and relationship statuses
- Worksheets let you put what you learn into practice
- Some of the “dirty talk” language used may be uncomfortable or offensive to some people (adult themes here)
- Worksheets have to be downloaded and can’t be filled in online. This is actually a good thing as you probably wouldn’t want some of those details to be seen by others.
Here’s a webinar Felicity Keith did recently which shows that she really does know what she’s talking about!
I believe the Language of Desire is one of the best relationship programs currently available to women. It’s written from the perspective of a woman who has successfully implemented the techniques outlined in the course. While the information is invaluable, it’s also incredibly insightful.
Regardless of your level of comfort with your own sexuality, this course focuses on offering advice on improving your sexual relationship with your partner, how to please your man and, importantly, explains why that advice works. You’ll get valid, proven techniques that you can use in real life and you’ll have a solid understanding of what makes men tick and why these techniques are so successful.
With that knowledge, you can alter your relationships with men, and not just sexual relationships. What you’ll learn here will empower you in ways you can’t imagine. Having followed the course myself, and realizing the power that women can wield when the course is used responsibly, I have nothing but high praise for the Language of Desire. Very highly recommended.