If you’ve been in a relationship for long enough, one question eventually occurs to you: “Is he my soulmate?” If the answer is yes, have you ever then wondered how a man will know that you’re “the one” for him?
Are there particular characteristics that he looks for in a woman before he’ll commit? Men do, in fact, have ways in which they know a certain woman is “the one.”
Here, I will shed some light on what characteristics they are looking for in a woman that would deem her to be “the one.”
Finding your soulmate is never easy and these are some super important characteristics that you’ll want to keep in mind as you look for him:
Give Your Man Some Freedom
Men will tell you straight up that if they meet a woman and she immediately begins questioning his every move, he will know that she is not the kind of woman he wants to commit to long-term.
Men do not want to feel controlled or manipulated; they want freedom to pursue their career and/or hobbies. They don’t want a woman who “needs” to be with him 24/7; that’s just too overpowering.
Of course, they want to spend quality time with their partners, but they also want freedom to hang out with their friends, go fishing, tinker around in the garage and so on.
If you are a supportive woman who can feel secure even when your man is out and about pursuing his hobbies and passions, you are more likely to be considered “the one” he could commit to long-term.
No Need to Change
If a man feels like you need to change in some major aspects, he likely thinks you are not “the one” for him to commit to long-term.
If he is quite happy with the way you are and genuinely enjoys your company, he may be thinking to himself, “Have I found my soulmate?” On the other hand, if you continually tell him that he needs to change this and that, he could be thinking, “She’s definitely not the one for me.”
He probably likes himself just the way he is, and doesn’t want to be changed. And you need to be yourself and let him see the inner you. If he finds out later that you are not who he thought you were, he’s likely to feel duped and that would very likely break the trust you’ve built between each other.
He Feels Supported and Encouraged
Men have issues and sometimes struggle, and they want to feel supported, encouraged and perhaps even challenged by women. Men want solutions in times of crisis, whereas women want support and comfort and someone who will just listen. Men and women deal with crises in fundamentally different ways.
For example, if your man comes home ready to quit his job due to frustration, he wants empathy, support, encouragement and a dose of motivation to fix the problem.
If you can provide those things for him in a loving way, he is more likely to believe that you could be “the one” for him for a long-term commitment.
Marriage Talk Doesn’t Scare Him
If you can talk to your man about marriage and he doesn’t zone you out or verbally assert that he is not interested, it might be that he has been pondering the idea himself.
Men don’t normally rush into long-term commitments or marriage.
In fact, most men will never bring up marriage in conversation with women.
As a relationship grows, a man may begin to wonder if he could see himself enjoying this particular woman for life.
When he starts doing this, he is really searching his soul and wondering if she really is “the one.”
If his girl brings it up, he is ready for the conversation and this is a good sign that she may be the wife for him.
If a man opts to spend a good deal of quality time with a woman, he is doing so because he enjoys her company.
This is a good sign that he may feel he’s one step closer to finding his true soulmate.
Intimacy and attraction are important in a relationship, but to also share a friendship and enjoy each other’s company is worth a great deal to a man.
After all, after the passion dies, what do you do if you don’t have any interests in common and you don’t share experiences and hang out as buddies or best friends?
He wants to know that 20 years down the road when the love may wane and the body shows its age, that there will still be a firm connection.
Will he still be able to sit and talk to you, take you out and feel a connection with you that goes beyond anything sexual?
If he completely enjoys your company, he’s likely to think you’re the wife for him.
These are just a few of the ways that a man may think a woman has captured his heart for a long-term commitment. If you are planning on meeting your soulmate with the intention of being in a long-term relationship, be sure to evaluate where you may stand in relation to the above five characteristics.
I hope this article has opened your eyes a bit more to a man’s world and that you have gained relevant insight into how you can know if perhaps you are your man’s dream come true.